Wednesday, February 11, 2009

I'm back!

Good morning ladies!
I am back from my blogging vacation!
I have missed you dear friends! I've missed writing.
I've missed reading your blogs.
I've missed being creative and putting posts together.
I've missed getting comments from you!
I have thought long and hard about why I blog
and decided that I really enjoy it
and now I am back, ready to go!
However, I have decided a few things about my blogging life.
I have decided that it is OKAY if I don't post every single day!
For some reason I have this weird thing inside me that I am determined to post every day. This is a silly goal that I have put on myself and there is no reason for it!
More than likely I will continue to post daily, but if I miss a day or two I have decided that it will be okay.
So if you stop by and noticed that I've missed a few days, don't worry! More than likely it is because I'm busy and be assured that I will be back soon.
Also, if I plan on being absent for more than a couple of days I will let you know.
Another area that I put pressure on is returning your comments. I feel that with blogging it is proper etiquette to return comments. I try very hard to return your comments, not just out of etiquette, but because I generally do care about you and like you! I will continue to leave you comments, but perhaps it will be at a more leisurely pace.
I am really bothered by some blogs that to me just sit and soak in all these wonderful comments, but they never return mine! It is hurtful, especially to the new bloggers on the block! When I first started blogging, I wanted to make friends and get comments so badly and naturally I went to the big popular blogs looking for friendship, I mean they are the role models in blogging....right?
Well, to me it was very hurtful when I would leave comments on some one's blog many, many times and they never once left a comment on mine. Isn't it just common courtesy to say hello back to someone when they've said hello to you? I'm not talking about expecting to get a comment back every single solitary time I leave a comment, that is just not realistic, but can't you throw me a bone once in awhile?
I really do try to respond to all my comments, but sometimes with my busy life I just don't have time. I have decided that I will still do my very best to reply, but if I simply don't have time that week, I will get to it the next week. Robin at Bittersweet Punkin has a little picture on their blog that says "Blogging with out obligation" and I like that. There should not be any pressure!

I say, if you are not planning on returning comments, why not just turn off your comment option so that people don't leave comments on yours? Wouldn't that be the proper thing to do?

However, there two blogs out there that I know of who do have a big fan base and yet they are very courteous and I would like to take a second to point out of them. These ladies are very popular but really nice, Liz from Mable's House and Kelli from There's No Place Like Home. They have a lot of visitors every day, but they still make time to come say hello to me once every couple of weeks and I really appreciate that. To me both of these women should get prom queen at Blogger Valley High!
Any way, I really have enjoyed my time off and I feel good about coming back with a few set boundaries for myself. I hope to get around to visit all of you in the next few days!

God bless you and have a terrific day!

"If you call out for insight and cry aloud for understanding,
wisdom will enter your heart and knowledge will be pleasant to your soul."
Proverbs 2:3,10

Love, Sharon


Brenda said...

Sharon,Im so happy you came back. I prayed and I know God uses you on your blog. I think more than you ever realize. You have touched my life and prayed when I didn't have a friend close.God is using you girl.
I agree with the blog snobs.You know I am just trusting God in that the ones that I need come my way.Just like friends we do not have a connection with everyone.
Love you and glad your back.
your friend,Brenda

A Romantic Porch said...

Sharon, So sweet to see you back...all of life takes balance. That's the hard part! I'm glad you're finding yours! xo rachel

Liz said...

Sharon you are such as sweetheart. I read this post nodding my head up and down the whole time. I agree with you exactly on everything you're feeling. I too have had some burn out lately on returning comments, but at the same time I realize how hurtful it can be to leave comment after comment and never get any kind of response from a blogger.

I've toyed with the idea of turning off comments from time to time, just to catch my breath. I may have to post about this myself.. and give you a shout out for being such a sweet sweet lady. So glad we're blog friends!

Amy said...

Welcome back! I have missed you! I feel like you sometimes. One of my friends who started blogging a few years ago never comments or probably never visits my blog. When she started, I didn't have a blog and still left comments. I still leave comments and she has never left 1 comment for me. She was one of my bridesmaids and seems to be in her own little world and has become a "Blog Snob". Oh well, I am still friendly and comment on her blogs. What can you do?

Again, I'm glad you are back and have missed your blogs. I love reading your blogs. They are so God honoring and inspirational. I will always be a friendly commenter for you.

Elena said...

I'm glad you are back Sharon and I'm glad you have a plan for no pressure which is wonderful! I agree:) You have been so sweet to make comments when you can on my blog and you have blessed me. Have a wonderful day!

luvmy4sons said...

Glad to see you back. I understand about comments. I try to be faithful and comment on every post of every blog I follow. I have many who follow me but never comment and many whom I comment on all the time and their comments are sporadic at best. I was hurt one day and decided that I wasn't going to comment any more...but God convicted me. I need to treat others the way I want to be treated. I needed to remember you reap what you sow. I needed to remember I was doing this in obedience to my hubby and to encourage others, not for praise or for comments. I leave the work into God's hands; I just obey. May He gain all the prasie and glory. Hugs to you sister.

Jocelyn said...

YEAH !your back!
I didn't relaize how much I missed reading your blog everyday!

My planets are all aligned now.. whew.. It's been a tough week. :)

grey like snuffie said...

Greetings dear are so fun to visit. I love peeking into worlds that are so different from mine.

The blogging world is so encouraging but can be so addictive and driven. Like the love languages we all have, the blogging world is so different for everyone.

For me life is SO EASY compared to most women...I do have lots more time as I don't work. I have ALWAYS been in awe of you working moms for OH SO MANY reasons. Your ability to blog and stay up with others blogs ASTOUNDS ME.

You found a lot of FUN pictures for this post...that alone amazes me. Christ came to set us free...the blogging world should be part of that freedom...

blessings of all His best to you! pam

Lille meg said...

I have missed you, too!
Welcome back here!
Wonderful pictures!
You too are faithfully visiting your blogfriends and comments on our blogs. Thank you for every visit!
Have a nice day (or night)!
Hugs from me.

Kathi said...

Sharon, You've said everything I've been feeling. Thank you for wording it so well and with such cute pictures. I am sad that I am limited right now with time, and can't do the commenting I wish to do. I feel it was necessary for me to at least make a statement to my circle of friends. I'm so happy you are back and I agree with you that both Liz and Kelli deserve praise. I would vote for them Valley High Blogger Prom Queen any day. You deserve it too!!! I love you, Kathi

~~Deby said...

Hallelujiah !!! Doing the Happy Dance here, Sharon---
I think you voiced what we all feel so well...the only thing is I dont respond on my blog to comments in the comments section...I do visit those who visit mine, the best I can...and your are right..NO OBLIGATION....but let's face it we all love those comments...
I also respond to others in a personal email if I have theirs.

Ashley @ Domestic Fashionista said...

Glad to have you back! I think your goals are great and are taken to heart. I too feel the burden to always get back to people for the same reason. But at the same time wanting to continue that courtesy. Looks like you have figured out a good balance!

Barb said...

Sharon, you do not need to march to anyone's drum but your own. It sounds like your friends love and respect you just the way you already are.

You sound pretty neat to me and your blog is lovely!

Many blessings,

Mrs.Ruiz said...

Yay Sharons back!! I missed you and your blogs ( no pressure) and as always Imissed your wisdom:) Thanks for pointing out the " blogging snobs" I think your post today said what alot of us feel. Have a great day Sharon:) Oh, I drank all the water for the ultra sound than drove 17 miles to the appointment and it is tomorrow not today:)

D'Rae said...

So glad that you are back! I have missed your sweet, uplifting posts!

D'Rae said...

So glad that you are back! I have missed your sweet, uplifting posts!

jen said...

I'm so happy to see your blog back!
I enjoy it so much and it is the first one I read. I find it encouraging and uplifting.

I love your sisters blog too and was sorry to see she won't be able to continue but I can totally see why-there are only so many hours in a day and she has to set her priorities.

All the best and Welcome Back!


mardell said...

Hi Sharon!
Yay ~ you're back! :o) You sure have been missed. I've been checking every day to see if you'd changed your mind. My prayers have been answered!

Love the cute pictures of the ladies & their typewriters! LOL

It's great to see you again.
Hugs from me-2-you!

Carol said...

Welcome back Sharon! I have missed you so much!

I have been enjoying reading your daughter~in~law's blog. She is a great girl! She has visited my blog & left several comments which I appreciate very much.


Connie said...

Glad to see you're back, Sharon!
I had to chuckle at the blogging etiquette lesson. I am new to blogging and wondered where do you reply to a comment someone leaves on your blog? On your own blog or back on their blog? I don't always return to their blog to see if they replied to my comment. It's so confusing and I apologize if I was ever one not to reply to a comment you left.

gin said...

Hi Welcome back. Sorry you are bummed out about the comments. Just remember your best blogging friends will always be there for you. I am just 6 months into blogging and with work, family and blogging, blogging gets on the end of the list. But I have enjoyed your blogging of your family and yourself and have have left a comment each time I visited. I look forward to continuing to visit you!!

Denise said...

So glad you are back! I totally understand for the need for some limits, though. This blogging world can be very time consuming. Even though I just started blogging at New Years, I find I need to put limits on my posts and commenting. Your observations on commenting helps me navigate this new world of blogging better. Thanks and God Bless!

Judy said...

Wow Sharon, you said everything that I feel. I'm glad you're back.

linda said...

Welcome back friend! You truly were missed!

I'm glad you took the time to decide what will work for you and your family. Guidelines are good. My goal this year was to cut back on my blogging time and I've stuck to it. I've found that blogging can take control if you let it and I was on the computer way to much. I needed a balance and it sounds like you've found your balance too. Glad your back though, I missed you!

Connie said...

I am soooooo happy to see you posting again, my sweet chick.

Michelle said...

I feel the same way. It doesnt' seem like I am popular enough either. What I really notice is, how when I post Christian things, I only get a comment or 2, but when I post about quilting or thifting, I get more.

I guess a lot of people don't agree with my Christian views,
or they are afraid to step out and profess their faith. So sad.

Glad you are back.

Monica said...

Sharon,I am so glad you are back! You don't know how much you have inspired me to start my own blog and right when I did you took your break,I was bummed ,but I understood why and deep down inside I knew you would be back.Blogging should be something you enjoy doing and you should do it at your own pace.I want to thank you for you're sweet comments back when I started my own blog last year,then quit but started back up again just a few weeks ago.It really did mean a lot.
God bless,

Sondra said...

So glad you are back. So very glad :)

Anonymous said...

Dear Sharon,
So happy you are back! I know exactly what you mean by people not leaving comments. I e-mailed you some time ago about how much I love you blog and that I was wanting to start one myself. You were so sweet and e-mailed me back. I told my whole family how happy I was that I finally got to talk to you! My point is, if you never got back to me, I would have felt a little sad. I think some people want all the glory, but don't have time for people! So I'm voting for you for prom queen! And by all of the comments from people that really love you, I think your blog is alot more popular then you think!
So good to have you back!


Darlene M.

nannykim said...

Welcome back; I know just what you mean ;-)....

Changing the subject--I am having a bit of trouble with my blogs. After doing a window update half of the stuff on my sidebar disappeared. I do not know if this is a windos security issure...or if blogger is having a bit of trouble. I will see what happens!

Sweet Nothings said...

So glad you're back Mom. :) I feel exactly how you feel. It's so important to get back to people and comment on their blogs.

Even though I get to see you every week, I'm really glad you're back posting! Keep up the good work! You're doing just fine!

Love you!

By the way, I had such a good time with you today! Lets do that again soon!

shamrock fields said...

Dear Sharon,
Wow!!! The internet hasn't been working all day. My husband just got it running--and I nearly fell off of my little computer chair when I saw you had posted! It's great to read your post again--the pictures are so adorable--the ladies with the old typewriters! I know what you mean about putting yourself under pressure. I routinely set more goals for myself than I can possibly attain! Post when you can--we all understand. You are such a sweet inspiration! Bless you-

adsgram said... were missed, Sharon. Glad you are back, feeling good, and I would just like to say...OH MY...your "family pictures" seem to have changed a bit! LOL! Welcome Back!


aujane said...

Sharon, I am so excited you have returned! I LOVE your blog!! I love reading about your home and family. I have never posted before,but I truly enjoy reading your blog. Thanks for being such a Godly inspiration! I have learned many things from you! Glad you are back!!

jane from Montgomery, AL

Beth said...

Nursing, so typing with one hand...yes two and still nursing!
Anyway...i was so thrilled when you left a comment on my blog. i couldn'tbelieve it! It made me feel so special. I wish i could comment more than i do, my computer is old and really slow and i don't have the time to sit and wait for it to load...with the kids and everything. i'm so glad you are back, but with boundaries for yourself. Thank you for your wonderful blog!

Anonymous said...

Dear Sharon. I was so happy to see your "I am back" Even tho we live many miles apart and we probably will never meet.
Your blog has truly blessed my life. You needed your blogging break.
Maybe just part time blogging is what you need.
Dont push yourself to
post every day.
I do enjoy your Sunday
Christian posts.
You are an amazing lady!
Pamela in Ohio

Ruth Hull Chatlien said...

Welcome back. I'm glad you figured out the limits that you're comfortable with. I've cut back to half-time blogging for the time being, and it's been a big relief.

Anonymous said...

Missed your blog posts and I'm glad you are back!

BittersweetPunkin said...

Hi Sharon,
First of all I'd like to address a few things. I have the Blogging Without Obligation button on my blog because I do not feel obligated to blog every day (and I don't)and I am one of those people that doesn't visit blogs every single day to make a comment. I just cannot.

I have come to terms that I cannot spend hours on the computer every day stopping by to say "hello"...I homeschool my kids and manage a very large household. I also like to keep an element of anonymity to my blog somewhat so I feel that blogging about every little detail of my life can seem somewhat narcissistic and boring to others. I blog to reflect on my Blessings and my appreciation for others. I also blog about being thrifty and trying to save money..hopefully helping others.

We ALL have busy lives and some of us handle them differently than others...I try to rotate my blogging visits to let my blog neighbors know that although I can't sit at the computer every day..I still think about them and enjoy them when I can't get around to them all the time. I personally have never felt scorned and I don't get upset if someone does not comment on my blog after I have visited theirs.

Your harsh words in this post surprised me and I do feel you are being somewhat judgmental.We are women of many different ages,lifestyles and responsibilities but we have one thing in common...we blog.

Thanks for the interesting post...


Kelli said...

Welcome back, Sharon! I always love reading your posts and seeing what you and your family are up to. Thank you for the award and sweet words. You really made my day! (((hugs)))

Anonymous said...

Hip Hip Hooray! Sharon's back!
So happy to see it!

My Grandkids ROCK said...

YIPPIE!!! I'm so glad you are back. My computer was down for a few days and it made me crazy. I wonder what I did before I learned about this blog business. I really missed you. Pam

Tealady said...

Hello! I just discovered your blog, so I feel like I've arrived in the middle of a conversation. (smile) But I wanted to tell you how much I've enjoyed these vintage pictures with a writing theme.

Blessings, Lana

Linda said...

Oh, it's so good to have you back!
I think your plan sounds great. I say do the best you can and enjoy yourself....I think most everyone feels the same way..hugs, Linda

PamperingBeki said...

I'm so glad you're back!

I agree that it's so nice when someone returns the favor and stops by your blog, especially if you've visited theirs many times and left comments.

I'd like to be able to do it every day, but that's not an option because I'm too busy (like most of us!) So I try to go through at least once a week and visit everyone who's left a comment for me.

It does take some time, but I feel like it's the right thing to do.

And I'm a big fan of Liz over at Mabel's House too!

Willa said...

Hi Sharon,

I love all your vintage pictures of secretaries/writers at work. My AA degree was in Secretarial Science 35 years ago. I worked as a secretary until just before I had my 3 sons. So you can imagine that I love your pictures. Thanks for posting them.

Yellow Rose Arbor said...

Hi Sharon,
I understand how you feel about comments and I agree with you!

I used to read your blog often, but I guess I lost your addy when my old computer crashed. I just found it on someone's blog, and bookmarked it again!

I like to post daily, but that usually isn't possible! I did pretty good for Valentine's week though!

I started just commenting to the people who comment to me, of course I make exceptions and do try to get new people to return the comment. I agree, it is courteous to reply. I've also been hurt by some of the Biggie Bloggers who ignore my comments because they are too busy, or too choosy about who they comment to. I do see their comments sometimes to a few select others!

Hang it there, it's a big bloggers world and there's plenty of sweet Christian people who will reply, and be happy to have you for their blogger friend!

Thanks for being honest and speaking your heart, and sweet that you apologized (doubt that it was necessary!) I never cease to be amazed at how mean some people can be, but the good outweigh the bad ones!

Good bless!


Pearl said...

Hi Sharon... I'm glad that you were able to step back and take some time to consider your reasons for being in blogland... and glad that you were able to set some goals and limits for yourself... Balance is so important...

I do not post daily, and never really have... I almost always leave comments wherever I visit... and like so many others, I am always tickled when someone leaves me a comment... I have had a few moments in my lil blogging life where my feelings were hurt, and where I felt like I'd been snubbed and treatly unfairly and rudely... but that happens in our real world, too, and I try to keep it all in perspective as best as I can!

For the most part, I have no regrets in having begun my blog and I plan to keep up with it for as long as my health will allow... Having met you, Kathi, and my other online friends has been a true blessing... I hope 'n pray that your blogging will bless you in many ways, and that you'll find your time online to be sweet and wonderful...

God bless...

~hugs 'n prayers~


Anonymous said...


I totally agree with what you are saying. I used to have a blog and experienced the same thing. I don't think that Robin above quite understood what you were saying. A blog is all about ones life and how can you say its narcissistic when most blogs are about a persons life. To me you didn't seem like you were "scorned" that is a rather harsh word that Robin used. You said you were HURT when you left comments many times on a blog without a reply. I agree with your thoughts and I am so happy you are back blogging! You should go at your own pace and I will keep reading!

Annie in Longview

JudyBug said...

I have felt the same way you do. I work hard to respond to comments and love to visit new blogs and leave comments. I thoroughly enjoy blogging! Reading comments and trading comments just makes my day!

Sharon said...

Dear Jen, Mardell, Darelene, P, Cecelia, Annie, Pam, Jane and Lynne,

I would like to thank all of you for your very sweet and supportive comments. It is so good to have friends like you!!!!

Hugs, Sharon

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