Friday, July 18, 2008

A very special breakfast date!

The other morning Hayden woke up late. During the summer, we let our kids sleep in, first of all because it is summer, secondly because we know that they are growing and require good sleep and thirdly because these lazy days are short and one day they join the real world and have to get jobs and wake up early. This is what his brother, Grayson, has been doing all summer, getting up at 5:30 to get to work. Anyway, Hayden came down to the family room still all sleepy and was just being quiet, trying to wake up all the way. I was busy in my bedroom cleaning out my clothes closet (which was no small chore by the way! I actually tried on every single thing and threw out two big black garbage bags full of clothes!).

After we said our good mornings, I said, "Hey sweetie, when you are ready to eat and you fix your breakfast, please call me and I will sit out on the deck with you while you eat so we can visit. I just want to sit and visit with you a bit." He said okay. About a half an hour later I hear, "Mom, I'm ready." I go into the kitchen and look out the window and see this.
I think he is just so cute! He fixed himself a healthy breakfast and is just sitting out there patiently for me.
He was playing with the dog and checking his phone patiently waiting. What a sweetheart of a son that I have!
I tapped on the window and said "I'll be right there honey." I grabbed a cup of coffee and sat out there with him.
We had a nice little visit together enjoying our sunny backyard and watching our funny dog.
I guess I wanted to share this with you because over the years people have asked me what I have done to raise such good boys. I don't know if Eric and I did anything super special besides, of course, PRAY, PRAY, PRAY, over them and ask God for his wisdom and guidance as parent. But I do think it is small things like this that I have consistently done their whole lives. I say, lets talk, I want to hear what you have to say, I care about you, I want to be with you. Even if they act like they don't want to or you think they don't care, I know that these types of things really matter in their lives and lets them know how much you care and value them. This is a great time to weave the things of the Lord into the conversation too!

It does not have to be hard or time consuming. Look at this example, I didn't even make his breakfast, I just had to show up! Of course there are awesome conversations that come up doing daily things like driving, eating at the table, doing dishes, etc.. I think what makes them feel special is making an appointment or a date with them. By doing this you are saying, I want special alone time with you.

It goes both ways too, when they say "Mom, come here and look at this" or "Mom, come here and watch me do this." I always try my hardest to go to them because that is another small way to show big love.

I really hope that you have a great weekend! I am going to take a blogging break over the weekend, so I will talk with you on Monday!

"Why spend money on what is not bread, and your labour on what does not satisfy? Listen, listen to Me, and eat what is good, and your soul will delight in the richest of fare." Isaiah 55:2

God bless you!

~ Sharon

25 comments:

Anonymous said...

Wow, so excellent Sharon! I thank you so much for sharing your wisdom gained by experience and blessed by you and your husbands efforts to raise up children for the Lord.

God richly bless you today! =)

~Joy

david mcmahon said...

You're all blessed. I always tell my kids that life is like a mirror and we get out of it exactly what we put in.

lady jane said...

*time
*unconditional love
*desiring their company
*finding delight
*being real
*forgiving them
*encouragement
*asking to be forgiven
*connecting
*not lording over them
*affirming
*so much more, but most important was what you said.......
*PRAYING.

We've done the same. :o)

Linda said...

Sharon...special moments like this are the best gifts we can give our loved ones. Taking time to let them know thy are special and really listening to what they say....as they say little things mean a lot. Hugs and a happy day to you, Linda

Brenda said...

Sharon you are so right. Our time and love is what each desire. I think today so many kids act out trying to get their parents attention either bad or good.I know we never do everything right,but the one thing i know we both can say is we love our family and yes I gave them all of me for the years they were here.
Great job!

Penless Thoughts said...

You are a wonderful, loving, mother and give sage advise.
Susan

A Romantic Porch said...

That is so awesome Sharon. xorachel

Kelly said...

You are an amazing mother, Sharon!

Pearl said...

Hi Sharon... What a sweet and inspiring post! Loved your photos, too. My Husband and I parent(ed) the same way! No Regrets At All. I couldn't imagine turning one of my boys away. Even today, as they begin to cross over the threshold from child to young adult, they still seek us for talks and hugs and time together... as we seek them for the same. Not a day passes that we do not all tell each other... I Love You! The Lord has certainly blessed us and your dear family, too!!

I'm planning a light-hearted, fun online Party, as well as having my 1st Give~Away! I'd love it if you'd be able to join in... and your friends, too! Please stop over when you get a chance for some details... I hope your weekend and blogging break are both wonderful and relaxing! God Bless...

~hugs~
Pearl

Donna Kay said...

Sharon - precious, precious pictures - I firmly agree - PRAY, PRAY, PRAY!! ...and just have to give them over the Lord!
I have 2 daughers - one 24 - one 16 - first daughter was a breeze to raise - literally almost the perfect child - No 2. keeps me on my knees - it's just amazing how 2 girls raised in the same house under the same love and rules and be so very, very different. I pray diligently for No. 2 every day, she is not going in the direction I would want for her and it scares me - but I have to turn her over to God - He loves her too and I ask for his help hourly!!!!
You are a very blessed Momma!!!!

luvmy4sons said...

I love your mother's heart...so sweet. I bet it just exudes from you!

Sondra said...

Looks like you have been having a fun summer break. How sweet of him to wait on you to get out there and sit with him. I wonder- do your boys think you are crazy taking pictures of everything you do with them? Mine always laugh and say "Mom must need some blog pictures." and "Do you blog about everything mom?"

Ruthie said...

A wonderful breakfast date. And all you said is very true...PRAY and be available.
Blessings.

claire said...

Sharon, this really touched my heart. I have been thinking about how I can better connect with my daughter as she enters middle school this year. These special moments mean so much to kids and really strengthen their character. Your boys are such an incredible testament to that. Thanks again for another inspiring post!

Claire

Jan Parrish said...

What a beautiful moment to treasure. Brings back wonderful memories. Thanks for sharing.

Jaderocks said...

I love that you had a breakfast date with Hayden. He is quite handsome. J.T. and I have made Fridays special during the summer. We go out to lunch and run errands together. I think he looks forward to it and so do I. Since Nicole is grown and lives on her own I realize how important these moments are to them....and me. Your boys have grown up to be such nice young men because you took the time for them.
Have a great weekend
Roxy

Shelley said...

Hi Sharon, you are such a wonderful Mother,you show such a kind spirit to your loved ones.You truly let your light shine before men....

Blessings,Shelley

Congratulations to your son and future daughter in law...

Kelly said...

My dear friend Sharon.....
I do believe God uses you to speak to people ...and today you have spoken to me.....I have learned so much from you and Kathi. I am going to go and re read this post again and keep it close to my heart. As I was reading it and you were writing that many people have asked you what you have done to raise such fine boys, in my mind I was thinking, *well not sure what she has done but the only thing I could do is pray* and low and behold that as I scrolled down that is the first thing you pointed out doing. I think if God says things like *ummm DUH* he would be saying it to me at that moment! Thank you again for listening to your heart and doing this post, you are a great friend!

Love,
Kelly

Linda said...

Hi Sharon...enjoy your weekend and when you get back please stop by, I have an award for you...hugs, Linda

cherished*vintage said...

Hi Sharon! I loved this post. My mom always sat with me while I ate if I got home late from my school activities, and didn't get to eat with the family. I've always appreiciated that because she took the time with me. The little things totally make a huge impact. Thank you for sharing.
-Karoline
Oh, by the way, I'm having a giveaway stop by if you're interested... :o)

judi said...

I think I lost my first post to you. Thank you for sharing this lovely story and pictures. What a sweet son you have. Doesn't that just melt your heart? Enjoy all those special moments.

Edie Marie's Attic said...

Hi Sharon!
you have such a beautiful loving family! And what wonderful events you have taking place!! Very exciting. Have a wonderful week Sharon.
Hugs, Sherry

Michelle said...

Sharon,
You are a wonderful mother, and your children do feel blessed. I can see it in their eyes.

Good job.
Michelle

~~Deby said...

Sharon,
What a sweet post and so full of TRUTH...these years pass so swiftly.... you cannot get the years back but you can, by choice, spend quantity and quality time with your children...and just LIKE them, not just love them....
Deby

Sharon said...

Hello Joy! So glad you stopped by! Thank you for your sweet comment! I hope you are enjoying your summer!

Hugs, Sharon

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